In today’s post, I am going to investigate this interesting question: “Are you self-sabotaging your efforts?”
I am frequently told by my clients that they have “Tried everything to fix their problems”.
My response to this is:
- You have done everything except the thing which works
- Trying won’t get you very far
How you talk to yourself – and by that I mean the way you think problems through – will have a massive impact on how you behave and the actions you take.
Let’s take this a step further: If you tell yourself you are going to try and do something your sub-conscious knows it has several options:
- not to bother at all
- get around to it sometime in the future
- feel it’s going to be hard work so resist as long as possible
- plus a few other disempowering options
If you tell yourself I am going to do it, your sub-conscious has now had an instruction and calls on your resources to take action.
I will give you an example:
I have had a task I set myself over the last few weeks. It required me to get out my sewing machine, fabric and other materials as I had decided I would make face masks for my nearest and dearest! The problem was I kept saying to myself I would try to do this. The result is several weeks have gone by with no action by me at all.
I was baffled! I knew I was perfectly capable of carrying out the task. It just felt tedious and a chore. I needed action.
I changed my language from I will try to I will.
The result was almost instantaneous. I took action! Masks have been made and the process has been fun and creative!
Are you self-sabotaging your efforts?
Let us look at the following ideas:
- I will try to learn a foreign language, versus I am going to learn a foreign language
- I will try to clean the house today versus I am going to clean the house today
Notice how you feel about each of the two options and which one inspires you more.
How we talk to ourselves has a massive impact on our focus and how we take action
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